The Vietnamese tea ceremony (Lễ Vu Quy or Lễ Thành Hôn) is one of the most meaningful traditions in a wedding. It is a time when both families formally meet, exchange blessings, and welcome the bride and groom into a new chapter of life. If you are planning your tea ceremony, here are some essential tips to make it smooth and memorable: 

1. Choose the Right Venue

Traditionally, the tea ceremony takes place at the bride’s home, but modern couples sometimes choose a larger space or a family member’s house for convenience. Select a venue that feels intimate and allows both families to gather comfortably. 

2. Prepare the Ceremony Table

The altar or ceremony table should include ancestral photos, candles, incense, tea sets, fruit, and floral arrangements. Red and gold are the most popular colors, symbolizing happiness and prosperity. 

3. Select Meaningful Outfits

The bride and groom usually wear Ao Dai, Vietnam’s traditional dress. Many brides choose red, symbolizing luck, while grooms often wear complementary designs. Matching colors between couples create a beautiful harmony in photos. 

4. Plan the Tea Serving Order

Tea is served first to the groom’s parents, followed by grandparents and senior relatives. This order shows respect and gratitude. The couple then receives blessings and sometimes jewelry or gifts in return. 

5. Incorporate Cultural Elements

Include traditional offerings like betel leaves, areca nuts, and trays of gifts presented by the groom’s family. You can also blend modern touches—such as personalized cups or a curated playlist—to reflect your style. 

6. Capture the Moment

Hire a photographer who understands Vietnamese traditions. Small details—the tea pouring, ancestral altar, or the exchange of blessings—will become timeless memories.  

✅ Final Tip: Start planning early, especially your outfits and ceremonial trays, since custom Ao Dai and accessories may take weeks to complete. With preparation, your tea ceremony will honor tradition while reflecting your love story.